I have a difficult time with that kind of stuff myself. Jay is helping me though. I let Kyanna decorate her own birthday cake all by herself (she turned 5, Ramius is 11 and I've never let him do it) but Jay encourages the kids to do as much as they can with very little intervening and only at their request. It was so hard to watch her do it, but I was so glad I did! Her face was beaming with pride when she was done. I still need to post some pics (I just uploaded them to my computer over the weekend). It turned out so much better than what I'd imagined it would. And she got a huge confidence boost out of it. So worth it!